Unfortunately I think tragedy creates a kinder world. When things like the pandemic or floods or hurricanes or war happen- people often forget their relatively small problems and genuinely want to help others. if people had this mindset without something like a war happening I'm sure we'd have a kinder world
I was thinking about the brain processes that underpin kindness and I then thought about how we are encouraged to be. So this is devils advocate here because I’ve not found any research to underpin my hypothesis. I want to pose that there may be a driver to be seen to “do the right thing” in the moment but that instant gratification which is the scourge of society drives people to find their next “right thing” and that lack of focus leads to losing interest in the first “right thing”.
It’s really interesting to me to ponder this as I propose that kindness, in the truest sense, is about medium/long term strategy based on need not want. Short term strategies tend to be more about indulgence than longevity, an instantaneous reaction to a perceived want. We need more prefrontal cortex kindness not limbic system indulgence.
Thank you so much for giving me bedtime pondering!
Yes I;m sure there is that wanting to be seen to do the right thing and especially in this age when the right thing is then plastered on social media. I agree if we had that do the right thing in the moment feeling on a long term basis, the world would surely be a better place
kindness is now only completed if it can be posted to show the world or talked about. Why is it the population now only see something good worth doing if it can be posted somewhere else. This isn't kindness, this is ego boosting. Everyone also loves to have something to complain about, why are we focusing on the negatives and not preaching about what we all have to be grateful for?
I think kindness comes from a place of self love and gratitude and wanting to then pass that feeling on to someone else. However, we currently live in a place where everyone is comparing their lives to someone else that lives thousands of miles away because their life is so easy to access - no wonder everyone is miserable. It needs to change!
I completely agree. Kindness has been highjacked as an accessory. It is so much more than that. Part of my motivation for creating this new means of writing and engagement is to say, 'enough is enough!' Take your fake, shallow, (un)kindness and shove it where the sun does not shine. Show me how you are kind to yourself and I will know if you are kind to others. It really is as simple as that. Kindness stems from meeting need not wants We all need to start with ourself. Then it will cascade outwards.
We're built for physical contact which = emotional contact. Have hugs been replaced with digital emojis? Should we add a new pronoun - OTH, Open to hugs - just so, you know people know. You can tell a lot by how someone hugs, take my Son for example hes a more pat you on the back awkwardly kind of hugger :)
I hate emojis it will not surprise you to know. Emojis are not an expression of humanity. They can be comedic, annoying or lazyness but they are human.
Interestingly when starved of contact our brains change in structure. We fear the very thing we crave. It is so sad. We need to tell everyone about it. Start small with contact and build it up.
It is really saddening that the only 'experts' who get exposure on mainstream anything are those who champion inhumane practices. It is not ok and it should not be allowed.
Kindness that comes naturally in-built and not driven by bullshit culture driven virtue signalling.
Resiliency, collaboration, positive acceptance and when required compromise...built on learning and experience. We're being brainwashed into worrying about everything - to seek out conflict, offence, difference wherever we look and whoever we communicate with. We need to take back control of the strings that pull us.
Love, love and love - its honestly a superpower we're losing. The good old phrase..holding a resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the person you resent to get ill....should be literally handed out as a prescription or in christmas crackers...or on bloody ticktok. We are being encouraged daily to collectively poison ourselves. We need to change...x
I love this! Exactly that .. I prescribe hugs Charlie and if a hug is too much then start with eye gaze… I get so sad to see dehumanisation and people willingly allow it to happen 🙈
Unfortunately I think tragedy creates a kinder world. When things like the pandemic or floods or hurricanes or war happen- people often forget their relatively small problems and genuinely want to help others. if people had this mindset without something like a war happening I'm sure we'd have a kinder world
You got me pondering overnight Lisa.
Love that.
I was thinking about the brain processes that underpin kindness and I then thought about how we are encouraged to be. So this is devils advocate here because I’ve not found any research to underpin my hypothesis. I want to pose that there may be a driver to be seen to “do the right thing” in the moment but that instant gratification which is the scourge of society drives people to find their next “right thing” and that lack of focus leads to losing interest in the first “right thing”.
It’s really interesting to me to ponder this as I propose that kindness, in the truest sense, is about medium/long term strategy based on need not want. Short term strategies tend to be more about indulgence than longevity, an instantaneous reaction to a perceived want. We need more prefrontal cortex kindness not limbic system indulgence.
Thank you so much for giving me bedtime pondering!
Yes I;m sure there is that wanting to be seen to do the right thing and especially in this age when the right thing is then plastered on social media. I agree if we had that do the right thing in the moment feeling on a long term basis, the world would surely be a better place
Yes we need to be able to make that short term into long term! Imagine how amazing that would be!
kindness is now only completed if it can be posted to show the world or talked about. Why is it the population now only see something good worth doing if it can be posted somewhere else. This isn't kindness, this is ego boosting. Everyone also loves to have something to complain about, why are we focusing on the negatives and not preaching about what we all have to be grateful for?
I think kindness comes from a place of self love and gratitude and wanting to then pass that feeling on to someone else. However, we currently live in a place where everyone is comparing their lives to someone else that lives thousands of miles away because their life is so easy to access - no wonder everyone is miserable. It needs to change!
I completely agree. Kindness has been highjacked as an accessory. It is so much more than that. Part of my motivation for creating this new means of writing and engagement is to say, 'enough is enough!' Take your fake, shallow, (un)kindness and shove it where the sun does not shine. Show me how you are kind to yourself and I will know if you are kind to others. It really is as simple as that. Kindness stems from meeting need not wants We all need to start with ourself. Then it will cascade outwards.
We're built for physical contact which = emotional contact. Have hugs been replaced with digital emojis? Should we add a new pronoun - OTH, Open to hugs - just so, you know people know. You can tell a lot by how someone hugs, take my Son for example hes a more pat you on the back awkwardly kind of hugger :)
I hate emojis it will not surprise you to know. Emojis are not an expression of humanity. They can be comedic, annoying or lazyness but they are human.
Interestingly when starved of contact our brains change in structure. We fear the very thing we crave. It is so sad. We need to tell everyone about it. Start small with contact and build it up.
It is really saddening that the only 'experts' who get exposure on mainstream anything are those who champion inhumane practices. It is not ok and it should not be allowed.
Kindness that comes naturally in-built and not driven by bullshit culture driven virtue signalling.
Resiliency, collaboration, positive acceptance and when required compromise...built on learning and experience. We're being brainwashed into worrying about everything - to seek out conflict, offence, difference wherever we look and whoever we communicate with. We need to take back control of the strings that pull us.
Love, love and love - its honestly a superpower we're losing. The good old phrase..holding a resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the person you resent to get ill....should be literally handed out as a prescription or in christmas crackers...or on bloody ticktok. We are being encouraged daily to collectively poison ourselves. We need to change...x
I love this! Exactly that .. I prescribe hugs Charlie and if a hug is too much then start with eye gaze… I get so sad to see dehumanisation and people willingly allow it to happen 🙈